How to be your own life coach
In my last post I wrote about the ups and downs of being an artist. I think it’s important to share about the struggles, because all artists (and all people in general) have them and I actually think it lends even more meaning and depth to the music they create. In my side work as a life coach, I work with artists on issues of self-doubt, etc. A LOT. It is very rich and interesting territory because it requires artists to step more strongly into who they are, what they want, and what is most important to them. Of course when I work with others, I can sound like an “expert” on this, but the truth is that one can know all these things but still be affected by them. Things are always much more challenging when you work on them from the inside out. But working with artists on this and knowing what I do definitely helps me to get through my own down times.
Yesterday I was feeling better but still a little low. So, I decided to sit myself down and remind myself of all the reasons why I love making music—the satisfaction of writing a great pop song, the thrill of making a song that gives you goose bumps as it rides through choruses and the kind of bridge that makes you want more, the honor of having people use songs I’ve written to get through difficult times, the joy of connecting deeply with people, etc. Then I reminded myself to be easy and compassionate with myself and to just have fun with it as I try new and challenging things. This helped and I’m happy to report that I had some breakthroughs with my vocal development yesterday! And do you know what? I had FUN doing it! Woo-hoo!
I also went to a show at the Uptown in Minneapolis last night because getting out to see other artists is usually a great way for me to rekindle my admiration for music and being an artist. I appreciate seeing artists play live so much because I know just how much time and effort and dedication goes into it. I saw a couple of great bands that you should totally check out: The Illness Project (they create layers of sound and texture and beautiful melodies, they remind me a bit of Halloween, Alaska, but they have their own unique sound) and The Brutes (very fun to see live, influenced by Interpol but with their own take on it and own brand of strong songwriting).
OK, off to do some more singing!
January 21st, 2008 at 12:33 am
This is another example of why you are every teacher’s dream student. You listen enough to me, even if you don’t fully believe me, to try what I suggest (and have even better ideas). I absolutely love that you found a way to remember what all this music making is about for you. Always remember the joy and meaning you bring to your listeners’ lives.
January 21st, 2008 at 9:10 pm
Thank you so much, Kerri! Your encouragement and guidance mean so much to me! Looking forward to seeing you soon.